Anyway, so these last couple of weeks we've been focusing on Truthfulness vs. Deception. Earning future trust by accurately reporting past facts. (Read Ephesians 4:25).
Well, the latest idea I got from the Duggars is they use hand motions to memorize scripture. So we thought about the scripture Ephesians 4:25 and we found ones to use, then we said it about 5 times. It really does help to use the hand motions! Several times when I started to forget, I would remember the hand motions first and it would help me to remember the words. The kids really liked participating like that also. Kind of funny because I made the hand motions for them but it really helped me to remember also.
When I had run into that Free Jinger group last week I heard a lot of their reasons as to why they don't like the Duggars. I think sometimes being misinformed can cause us many problems when we don't try to seek the truth. That's why it's good to study something out or at least give people a chance to explain. Rumor is a bad thing too. One person can say "Oh, I think someone does it this way" and before you know it, it spreads. This book really goes into depth graciously explaining exactly how they run and what materials they use. One of the biggest misunderstandings is that Michele, the mom, does nothing while her kids do all the work. Another is that the house is always clean. Or that TLC paid for their house to be built (explained in their first book). They are not part of the Quiverfull movement and they explain that they just love children and love God. It's really a good book to read. I figure I can glean some ideas. If they can make it work with 19, surely I can made do with my 6! :D
Also, another book we use to tie in our character qualities is Growing with Jesus. After reading the story in the bible about Jacob's deception to his father and his brother Esau, we tied it in with our character quality of the week. Then we used Growing with Jesus to discuss confessing and asking forgiveness. We had such a good time and the kids really listen and pay attention.
Today I was thinking about the importance of raising my kids vs. just letting them veg, do a little bit of chores, hope they they grow up not be afraid of work. I got from the Duggar's newest book the true importance of involving your kids in everything you do. Instead of using errands as an escape, what a great opportunity to teach my kids about using coupons, savings, shopping wisely. Instead of wanting to get dinner cooked fast, just start a little earlier and get everyone involved. I have to get over my frustration of always wanting to do it myself and get it done fast. My kids absolutely enjoy learning to do what daddy and I do and actually prefer it over their toys. Crazy, I know.
|Ryan packing lunches for one of our many field trips|
Am I taking away their childhood? Actually, I prefer to do things myself but they constantly want to be involved. Kids have such a hunger to learn but sometimes it's easier to pacify them with other things or even discourage them because they don't do it good enough. (Because I just want to do it quickly). That was something I've really worked on this last year.
|Charles helping Ivy learn how to pretend stock shelves|
I often have to pray for strength, literally, I would get on the floor and pray that God would help me to be patient and slow to anger or frustration. Trust me, I work so much faster alone but in the end, what's the purpose of that? When my husband's grandpa died, all the things his kids said brought tears to my eyes. He had 10 children and each one told a memory they had about their father. Do you want to know the number one thing they mentioned? How he took the time to teach them in everything he did. Whether it was working on cars, cooking, baking, shopping. Anything. It always took him longer but they eventually learned because of it. Those words of sentiments made my heart drop realizing I was doing none of those things. Not only can I teach them, but by working side by side with them I'm also spending time with them.
Anway, just sharing some of my (many, ohhhh so many) life lessons. I tell people when I blog, I'm just talking aloud. Always preaching to myself. :D