Friday, September 29, 2006
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This morning my mom and I met for breakfast and then we went to go look at my lot just for fun. Since the workers had already did some digging for the pipes and then left to do some other houses, I snuck around and walked inside. I came back just in time from walking around it (I'm not supposed to) because as soon as my feet hit back on the sidewalk, my builder pulled up. His name is Ron and he's such a nice guy. So after talking with him awhile about some things I wanted, I offered everyone drinks and then left to pick up Charles from work. He wanted to come back and see for himself and so he snuck around the lot. We had a good time. We were driving around the neighborhood and lo and behold we ran into another house with the same exact layout but different elevation in the front. So we walked around inside of that. It's not right by our house so the neighborhood isn't that nice for them. Thankfully that won't be the case for us because there are new homes around us. So here are some pictures for my family to see (and if you would like to of course). :)
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Thursday, September 28, 2006
I wanted to introduce you to my little class I have on Thursdays for 3 hours. It's really neat. It's like having a Sunday School class but for 3 hours instead of 1 hour. We have a curriculum and get to have a half hour play time in the quad room which can be really loud. This year it is indoors because they are completely remodeling the outside playground and it won't be done till the end of the school year. So, the play room this year is indoors and that's where my boys run out all their energy (I hope) and my one little girl gets to have some playmates. I've noticed something interesting between the boys and girls in the quad room. The boys are always running around and yelling. The girls are always off in a corner playing quietly. It's a good thing I have mostly boys in my class because the girls would just have me stumped. I know how to handle boys because I have 3 of my own. They are 10 times harder than the girl I have but I'm used to the nature of boys and I understand them better. Boys you have to take to the ER more often but the girls have their emotional side that make my hair stand on end. I'm sure it would've been different if I had 3 girls of my own! First we have a half hour of play time, then we go into teaching and craft time, snack time, then recess, storytime, then back to some organized activity time. Then the moms come back. On Tuesdays, Me and a couple of my assistants watch about fifteen 1 year olds for 3 hours while their mommys go to bible study at their church. That class(in a twisted sort of way) is actually easier for me even though at times there can be 15 crying babies because I'm comfortable with babies. I've had 4 of them so I understand them. As a teenager, I probably would of done that class once and then died of a stroke from the stress but it's actually nice to work with some women and get to know them in between wiping snot, changing diapers, untangling someone's hands from another's hair, or feeding another. It's actually a nice way to get out of the house and give some moms a refreshing break once a week that they really need. : ) Here is a pic of one of my boys Jamison. He is such an awesome kid and amazingly obedient. So awesome. Below is a pic of craft and Snack time.
(Sometimes I like to remind myself!) Now remember, I'm not going to make any mention of the blood, sweat, and tears it takes being a SAHM of 4 (or if you have 2). This is only a positive TT today! :)
1. I get to stand out with the boys at their bus stop and wave goodbye to them.
2. After I wave goodbye to the 2 different buses, I get to walk my husband to his car and blow him a kiss.
3. After he leaves, I slowly walk back into the house with a smile on my face while I sip coffee and go get my bible.
4. On the days I'm not teaching at Scottsdale Bible I get to just hang around my little ones and play with them.
5. I can clean with only half the kids at home therefore less interventions I have to make. (Except for this morning when my 3 year old flooded the bathroom).
6. I can make a hot lunch for my husband and visit with him because he comes home everyday on his lunch break to be with us. The guys are jealous at his job. Sometimes they ask him, "So what did you eat today?"
7. After he leaves I can either nap with my kids or get some cleaning done while they are sleeping. And believe me, when Ivy goes down for a nap, I am jumping for joy. She gets into everything.
8. I get to be with my little girl when she wakes up from her nap and give her kisses and snuggles while she's still yawning.
9. I get to welcome my son's school buses as each one comes and then go over their work with them. Then I ask them about their day and I get to have the pleasure of sharing that with them!
10. As a homemaker my only boss is Charles so I don't have to worry about someone who is going to fire me or be demanding! Whoo, hoo!
11. I have the choice of either working or going somewhere fun off the cuff because I don't have to worry about "getting hours in".
12. I don't have a schedule to live by because I can change it each day. I don't have invoices to fill anymore, or CEO's to sale software to, or attend meetings. Or answer the phone with a long "Thankyou for calling TTI, how may I direct your call?". I can just say hello when the phone rings or not answer at all.
13. And best of all, I don't have to miss any moments with my kids and I can attend their school plays, or attend a meeting at their school, or chaperone a field trip. I'm free to be "just me" all day long. (Then hopefully take a shower at the end of the day!) Hee,hee.....
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Monday, September 25, 2006
So, to my friends, this is what our Sundays look like. Here we are heading to church and Ivy and the boys were being cute so I took some pics. Sunday School is for an hour and we get there by 9:30am. Ivy goes to nursery and the boys go to their Sunday School classes. Then we go to the main sanctuary for our Sunday School. At 10:30am, worship starts and the boys come back up to sit in the service and I sing on the platform for worship. After the service is over, we stay in the area because we live kind of far to be driving back and forth. Yesterday, we went and looked at our lot of our house, then had a picnic, before heading back to church for choir practice at 4:30pm which my husband plays drums for. Then at 5:30pm we head to the prayer room for a half hour to pray with everyone else. By 6pm we head back in church for platform practice. On Sunday nights and Wednesday, Charles plays drums for worship. When it's almost 6:30, I take Ivy to nursery and the boys to childrens church. Then I had back in for worship service and the sermon (which is always awesome and challenging). By 8:30, I'm picking the kids back up and getting back in the van to head home after I visit with my friends. So, our Sundays are pretty busy but we love it and I wouldn't trade it for anything!!! Sunday is the Lord's day so we definitely believe in keeping the Sabbath. :) What a wonderful way to spend the day.
Corner view from the back. Sorry guys, I'm putting this on here for my family members that I can't send emails to and for my own record. :)
Side view of back of house. You can see how my house is longer than my neighbor's because I have 4 bedrooms and he has 3.
This is the front. It's gonna be great when they put up the block walls for privacy!
Friday, September 22, 2006
This is so cute. This is Ivy's kitchen inside of her house. She has to have it in the boys room because there is no room anywhere else. She has a microwave that actually acts just like one, and a bed for her baby, kitchen, and lots of play food! This kid is very lucky. I always wanted this when I was little. I made tents in my bedroom to do this. :)
Chaz is in the very back with the red shirt on. :)
Thursday, September 21, 2006
1. Her hair glistened in the rain like a nose hair after a sneeze.
2. She had a deep, throaty, genuine laugh, like that sound a dog makes just before it throws up.
3. He was deeply in love. When she spoke, he thought he heard bells, as if she were a garbage truck backing up.
4. He fell for her like his heart was a mob informant, and she was the East River.
5. The little boat gently drifted across the pond exactly the way a bowling ball wouldn't.
6. The ballerina rose gracefully en Pointe and extended one slender leg behind her, like a dog at a fire hydrant.
7. Even in his last years, Granddad had a mind like a steel trap, only one that had been left out so long, it had rusted shut.
8. The hailstones leaped from the pavement, just like maggots when you fry them in hot grease.
9. From the attic came an unearthly howl. The whole scene had an eerie, surreal quality, like when you're on vacation in another city and Jeopardy comes on at 7:00 p.m. instead of 7:30.
10. Her face was a perfect oval, like a circle that had its two sides gently compressed by a Thigh Master.
11. He spoke with the wisdom that can only come from experience, like a guy who went blind because he looked at a solar eclipse without one of those boxes with a pinhole in it and now goes around the country speaking at high schools about the dangers of looking at a solar eclipse without one of those boxes with a pinhole in it.
12. She grew on him like she was a colony of E. coli, and he was room-temperature Canadian beef.
13. Long separated by cruel fate, the star-crossed lovers raced across the grassy field toward each other like two freight trains, one having left Cleveland at 6:36 p.m. traveling at 55 mph, the other from Topeka at 4:19 p.m. at a speed of 35 mph.
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Wednesday, September 20, 2006
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
Question by Xopher:
Do you think the war on “Terror” would end if Pres. Bush watched GI-Joe and saw that even Duke and the gang can’t ever stop Cobra?
I think that no matter how many times the GI-Joes can’t stop Cobra from trying, they realize they can at least keep them at bay from terrorizing everyone and taking full reign. To the Gi-Joes, Cobra’s a threat. To Cobra, GI-Joes are something to fear.
I have to tell you something that Ryan said that gave me a good chuckle. I was telling Ryan how much I loved him. I made the shape of a heart and said I love you "this much". Then I opened my arms real wide to show him how much I love him. Ryan said, "No, John (from school) has a big heart". I was thinking maybe John's a nice boy or something so I asked Ryan why. Ryan said, "John has a big heart because he's a big kid." I knew what he meant because we saw John at the park the other day and he is a big kid for 5 years old. Kids are so cute with things they say.
Ryan is always a ham.
That is an excellent question. Thanks for asking as I have thought about this before. Since this is all new to me about Chaz, I'm certainly weighing all my options. In a normal circumstance, I have to say that personally, I'm not a big fan of homeschooling for my own kids. Growing up, I absolutely loved going to school, loved having teachers, friends, playgrounds, P.E., and the whole bit. I remember as a kid hearing about other kids that homeschooled and I never desired that myself. I am very much a sociable person and I love being around people. I learned so many things in school that I might not have learned in a homeschool setting. Like how I would tell my friends at school about Jesus and how He loves them, I learned to seek out the new kids that had no friends and not judge them, just befriend them. I learned how to make stands against peer pressure from other kids that didn't believe as I did. I learned how to debate my science teacher in class about the creation verses Big Bang Theory. I really think these things strengthened me and gave me a boldness that I might not of had in the protective shell of homeschooling. There are just hundreds of reasons I did not desire that myself as a child. I guess even more with boys. I want them to learn how to react to teachers that might not be so nice. How to respect them anyway. Some years they might have great teachers and some years they might have not so great teachers that you have to walk on egg shells around. I hope that from that they learn that someday when they hold a job, they can learn how to respect their bosses whether or not he's a great boss. For those that homeschool, please don't be offended by this. This is my own convictions! Please don't think I am saying that this is what everyone else should do! I'm just answering a question for someone so I have to answer honestly for myself. Meg, although I have to agree with you that Chaz could be a different case and he could benefit from homeschooling. However, I am learning him myself and I'm still walking in the blind right now! LOL! I say that light heartedly because everyday I am constantly wondering how I can help Chaz learn. I did at one point consider homeschooling Chaz but the little ones were always too distracting for Chaz and they require a lot of my attention and time. The thing about Asperger kids is their weekness in the social arena. I think a school is a good place to work through something like like rather than just have playdates here and there. The schools are all pushing medication right now but I want to slowly take my time because I'm not gonna just throw whatever at him. Whatever meds I use to help him I will carefully research myself and make lots of contact with different doctors. Next year, I might be placing Chaz in a private school that specifically works with kids like Chaz. That would be my last resort and if that doesn't work, I just might take you up on your idea once I have at least one more child in school. :) Thanks, Meg. You definitely got me thinking of more possibilities including your idea for Chaz.
Saturday, September 16, 2006
Friday, September 15, 2006
I wasn't looking forward to meeting with the new school my son will be going to next week. I'm already frustrated that he has to change schools in the first place. My first impression was bad when I walked into the nurse's office to get a cup for a drink, this lady comes walking in looking like she hates her job asking what I was doing. I told her and she gave me a scowl. After she walked out, I looked at the kids in the room and I said, "Please tell me that's not the school nurse". They said she wasn't. Phew. That would be one mean nurse.
I then went in to meet the teachers and see Chaz's new classroom. I ask who the new teacher is and guess who it was? I saw them pointing to that very lady that looked like she just ate 10 lemons. I about walked out right then and there but decided to just stay and listen. When just the director was in the room I said, "Um, I don't like that teacher". Fortunately I was wrong and I just thought they were pointing to that lady. The real teacher is actually tough but pretty nice. It was a 2 hour (zzzzz..) meeting but also a very stressful meeting.
You see, Chaz was put into first grade this year against my wishes. He is supposed to be repeating Kindergarten. Click here to read the previous post on this subject. I was a little frustrated because when I told the teachers in the meeting about Chaz's diagnoses with Aspergers Syndrome (and OCD), they only cared about the ADHD. They kind of blew me off on that subject and said they didn't really believe in it. They were kind of mocking. I couldn't believe it. They were saying stuff like, "what do doctors know". Mrs. Hood came to my rescue when she told them about Chaz's obsessive behaviors such as always having to push in all the chairs before he leaves the classroom and when he comes in he has to straighten everyone's pencils on their desk. We all kind of giggled about that because they were saying how nice the desks always looked. :) She gave them all kinds of examples. They just got kind of quiet. The doctor that was supposed to be at the meeting but couldn't make it would've blown them out of the water.
They put Chaz in 1st grade this year instead of in Kindergarten like I asked. So now that they discovered that Chaz is not ready for 1st grade, he is now being pulled out of his class into another school. This is not good for Chaz. It can be hard on any kid but even more for Chaz right now. When the teacher suggested that we just keep him in first grade but teach him Kindergarten, that's when I put my foot down and said no. I told her I didn't want Chaz in 2nd grade next year. He needs the basics. He needs to start from the beginning NOW. So, after 2 hours of debates, I was wishing I read this practical and legal guidance
for parents who have children with IEP plans. It was a very tough meeting and at times I had to put my foot down to get them to even listen to what I had to say. I won't go into everything but after the meeting was over I had a headache and was ready for bed.
I don't have a lot of choices here. This was my only choice in the district. The good thing is that Chaz will be learning phonics and the kids that come out of this class, learn a heck of a lot and that's what matters. Please pray that I am making right decisions because right now is the beginning of the rest of Chaz's life. My little boy's future. That's why I feel so much pressure. However, I feel so weary of it all but I can't hide from it. I think Chaz is very intelligent and just needs a teacher who can help him get his feet off the ground. He just needs the basics and I know Chaz can fly. He may be starting late, but once he stretches out his wings, I know he'll take off and surprise us all.
Thursday, September 14, 2006
1. Don't have children. I promise you. You will keep your house immaculant.
2. Don't get married. Then... you don't have to worry about any clothes being hidden behind the bathroom door!
3. If you already have kids, clean and ignore them, don't tend to them. CPS may come after you, but hey, you'll have a clean house!
4. Another option is sitting down, drinking coffee, while your little ones each clean a room of the house. Heck, you can even get your one year old to personally vacuum the floor. Just make sure you clear the floor of pennies first.
5. Don't buy any dishes, only disposables. That way you have no dirty dishes. Please don't try and wash the disposable plates. We're not in the depression times.
6. Don't decorate your house! The less stuff you have, the least amount of times you have to dust! Just plain and boring white walls.
7. Don't wear clothes. It only creates more dirty laundry.
8. Never ever buy groceries. Only eat out. Buying groceries only clutters up a clean fridge.
9. Don't ever make dinner. Eat out only. Dirty someone else's dishes.
10. If someone left something on the floor, simply throw it away. That will take care of it.
11. Use your neighbors toilet. That way you won't dirty your own toilet.
12. Hose down in your backyard rather than putting waters spots in your own shower
13. If none of these help, hire a maid. I can't help you. ;)
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Tuesday, September 12, 2006
Hi! It's been an interesting week. Yesterday I made a visit to the ER because my kidneys hurt so bad so they gave me a strong shot to fight the infection. Charles stayed home to take care of the kids and me so that was nice. He's so thoughtful. Thank goodness for him because I was in too much pain to do much. Last night my son broke out in hives all over his body. I couldn't believe it. I told my husband that if he wakes up the same and has a fever, I would take him in to the ER. This morning he woke up with a swollen face and swollen feet. It hurt for him to walk so I took him in. He also had a fever. They said he had a viral infection and the hives are a result of it so now we're back home and Ryan's resting. It's been an interesting week! The funny thing is I took this week off from having any appointments but we ended up being pretty busy again and Friday I have an appointment with the school for Chaz. It's a good thing I didn't schedule any other stuff! I had to miss work today but that's okay, Ryan needed his mommy and he could possibly be contagious so he's spending time with us. My job is only a little part time job and I get to be with my kids doing it. Thank goodness I have a man that can cook, clean, and take care of kids when we're down. I'm blessed! My back pain has considerably gone down since I got the shot so that's awesome. I got a referral to see a specialist and possibly get surgery but I'll think about that later. There is other stuff going on. Well, other than all that, things have been great around here and my kids are happy so all is well. Take care! : )
Monday, September 11, 2006
Sorry, it's been awhile since I last posted. It's been so busy around here with appointments and such. I've been a little frustrated because Chaz's school called me the other day and told me Chaz isn't doing well in school and they tested him to see if he's ready for first grade and he's not. I said, "Yea, that's why I asked you to have him repeat Kindergarten." They told me that there must've been a miscommunication between the doctors and the special education leaders because the class that Chaz needs is not at that school. He needs the Kindergarten version (which is what I told them), yet they put him in a special education class with 1st, 2nd, and 3rd graders all together. No wonder why he's so lost and struggling in his class. I knew something was up when he was bringing home 1st grade homework. That's when I called the school and wanted to know what was going on. If he's on an IEP plan then they would do work at his level. So, now I have a meeting at the new school he will be attending on Friday. This time I told them when I wanted to meet so that I could go without my children. I want there to be clear communication with no distractions. I was a little disappointed that they made that mistake because Chaz cannot handle change very well. This will be his 5th school because of everything he's gone through. He's only 6 years old. The sad thing is that when my house is finally done, we will be permanently moving and putting him in the school where he will stay. That will be another change for him to get used to. It most likely will be a private school that specifically works with Aspergers. Anyhow, please keep us in your prayers. I need to find answers for Chaz and I am currently trying to find a good support group so I can glean ideas from others. I hope you have a great Monday! :)
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
Question from Faqqly:
What trait do you most admire?
I would probably say humor. Humor when a day is tough. Humor when a day feels long. Humor when your kids do something that would normally make you cry. Someone who can make a hard day feel like it’s not so bad after all is definitely a good trait.
The second for me would have to be gratefulness. Sometimes I don’t feel like getting up to dress the kids for school. But I am so grateful God gave me these handsome boys who have a nice school to go to in nice clothes. Sometimes, I wish our van didn’t suck up so much gas and cost so much. I am so grateful that God blessed us with a beautiful van that fits my family and runs well with great low payments. Sometimes I wish my house wouldn’t take so long to get done being built. I am so grateful that God bestowed this blessing upon us of a new house. We don’t have to worry about an old house that has problems or repairs that need to be fixed. You see, behind every problem, there is a silver lining. Even if it’s just building your character and teaching you empathy when others go through things.
What is yours?
I was excited about Chaz's new school that has a high ranking. His principal was even my principal when I was younger. He's such a good man. Well, since Chaz has Asperger's syndrome, ADHD, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, he is in a special needs class. Well, I've had Chaz off of meds over the summer because I wanted to just start with a clean plate. I wanted to see if he didn't have to have meds and that the school could help him without it. After watching him for some time, it is becoming quite clear that he does need help with something. For the ADHD I give Chaz coffee because his doctor told me that it has the same stimulant that Ritillin has in it. So, I give him a cup of coffee in the morning. That does help. As for the Aspergers, that cannot be cured but there is medicines that help treat the symptoms. Chaz is in a great class with only 15 students and several assistants. He is still struggling greatly and can't slow down enough to even do his work. I was a little disappointed when they told me Chaz would be in 1st grade. I told them I wanted him to repeat Kindergarten. He went through his whole Kindergarten year learning nothing last year because we did not know of his diagnoses. They told me that in special needs classes, they go by age group and that since he is on the IEP plan, they would teach him at the level he needs. But the other day he brought work home and I was surprised to see that it was 1st grade level. I was worried because Chaz hasn't even learned the basics. Such as the sounds of the alphabet. I'm baffled at that and so I will be calling a meeting with the school. In cases like this, you don't just have a teacher working with you, you have about 5 or 6. This includes the Psychologist, social worker, teacher, special education leader, etc. It's a team effort. I always hope to find an actual Aspergers Support Group in my area but it's hard to find. I found one in Utah but that's out of state for me. Anyhow, so that is Chaz's update on how he is doing. He's my little pumpkin and I hope to help him do better. I feel a lot of pressure on my shoulders because the longer I wait, the more behind he falls. Don't get me wrong, I'm not behind, it's just getting him exactly what he needs is something I constantly have to pursue and the younger the better. :)
Monday, September 04, 2006
Ivy just ate and ate and ate. She did not stop unless it was her nap time. Here she is sneaking more watermelon off the table. At one point I caught her walking around naked. She had taken off her diaper and set it by one of the guy's foot, then just walked away. I was red faced as I retrieved the diaper and the little streaker.
The guys played and played games. In fact, when they were done with this, they headed to a game place! But you know, it is labor day so they should do what they want and just have fun on their day off! A little later, Becky and the kids headed to Carol's house. I headed off in the sunset with my little kiddos home to get them to bed. Hope you had a relaxing labor day weekend. :oD