Tuesday, September 06, 2011

Abortion's Heavy Price

I don't know why I've been thinking a lot about the tragedies of abortion lately.  Maybe it's because I knew of someone through someone that recently decided to go ahead and have one.  Even though others reached out and offered their help.  The promise of a boyfriend who says he'll stay if baby is aborted only to leave as soon as the deed is done.  That life is snuffed out FOREVER.  Boyfriend is gone.  Friend's disappointed.  At night, I wonder if a tear falls down onto her pillows?  If she ever thinks about how many weeks she would be?  I wonder when her due date comes if her heart will hurt.  My heart hurts for her.


By 3 weeks her heart begins to beat.  By 5 weeks, the baby's nervous system is formed.  What does that tell me?  That the process of an abortion is a painful one for her. By 7 weeks she's already moving around.  By 8 weeks all her vital organs are formed.  By 12 weeks her skin is already sensitive. 

Satan's lies that are so easily seen by some, have blinded others. Sin has blinded many.  My heart aches for those that truly don't know the heavy, heavy price they are gonna pay for the rest of their life.  Of course some hearts are so waxed cold they will never care.  But many, many, many regret that choice.  Some never even get to have children after an abortion.  

I am not angry at those that do snuff a life out but my heart BREAKS for them.  The act of taking a life into your own hands and silencing it, will never truly be silenced in their mind and heart.  No matter how much alcohol they down, how many drugs they use, how many sleeping pills they consume over the years. There will be thousands of reminders over their lifetime.  Satan didn't offer to give that information when thinking about the abortion, huh?  He never does.  Like any sin, we just hope we can do the deed and put it behind us.  


I thank  God I was raised by my Christian parents.  That they shielded me from being slowly boiled like a frog not knowing he's being cooked.  Sin is the same.  It starts out with a little lie.  Just taking one candy bar at the store.  Reaching into mom's purse.  Trying that drink.  Taking that hit.  Believing a boy's whispers of love (lust).  Then when an unplanned pregnancy comes, believing he'll stay if she just aborts.  "Friends" urging you to.  Family angry at you. Sitting on that table of cold doctors removing a life that's "just tissue".  Telling the boyfriend it's done.  He leaves.  You are alone in your tormenting thoughts, every day for the rest of your life.  So you drink to erase the memories.  Take a hit to make you feel happy.  Take sleeping pills to help you sleep to make those thoughts go away.  See how it progresses? Sin will eat away at your conscience.  It never comes without a price.  

There go I but for the grace of God.

21 comments:

Anonymous said...

Why do you that people who have had abortions will be so regretful that they turn to drugs?

Plenty of women don't regret having abortions. The vast majority of people I know who have had abortions don't regret their abortion at all. And how on earth can you say that their hearts are "waxed cold"? Do you know them? Are you a mind reader? No, so just stop talking about things that you know nothing about.

Virginia Revoir said...

Sorry but I was only speaking of people in my life that I personally know. Sadly, I've known quite a few that have had abortions. NONE of them were happy about their decisions later and GREATLY regretted it. For someone to be cold enough to not care means that their hearts have waxed cold like the bible says.

Taryn said...

The anti-abortion rally every January in Washington D.C. that is only seen on the Catholic channel shows many women with signs that say, "I had an abortion and regret it". I personally know a few(3) girls who were forced by their mothers to have abortions and they all regretted it-they becames "with child" soon after and kept the babies. I heard this also happens to SOME girls who are forced to give up their babies for adoption- they will conceive a child soon after and keep it. Many Catholic,etc. churches have support groups for women who regret having abortions. I do know 2 women and 2 men who had depression problems and problems with alcohol/drugs. After they were better they said the reason had been an abortion.

Virginia Revoir said...

Thanks, Taryn, for your comment. Well said.

Anonymous said...

Of course girls who are forced to have abortions are going to regret them; they never wanted the abortions in the first place. Forcing a person to abort a wanted pregnancy is just as abhorrent as forcing a person to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term.

Some people have values that differ from yours. In my experience, most of the people who do not regret having an abortion tend to hold the view that one person's "right to life" should not take precedence over another person's "right to his/her body". For example, many of them would say that no person should be forced to donate a kidney to save the life of another person. This does not make them heartless, it just means that they have different values than you do.

Virginia Revoir said...

Now take those words "unwanted pregnancy" and replace it with "unwanted baby". Does that sound worse? That pregnancy you talk of is a human being with a beating heart. Not some tissue. Lets just call a spade a spade. I don't care whether you're a catholic, mormon, Christian, athiest, that baby has a beating heart and can feel. If you don't want a surprise pregnancy, then keep your pants zipped up.

Anonymous said...

I was wondering when you would start slut-shaming. "You had sex? Too bad, you don't own your body."

"Unwanted baby" is far worse than "unwanted pregnancy". That's why it's better to stop the pregnancy before it becomes a baby.

You said it yourself, a spade is a spade. A six month old infant is a baby, not an adult, and an embryo which has been in utero for six weeks is a fetus, not a baby. A fetus which likely can not feel pain, since according to contemporary research, fetuses don't have the capacity to feel pain until at least 20 weeks. According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, the actual point at which a fetus begins to feel pain is probably closer to the 28th week.

A fetus isn't a human being anymore than my thumb is a human being. It has human tissue. It has a pulse. It is insentient. It must remain attached to a person in order to function. If I wanted to chop off my thumb for whatever reason, why shouldn't I be able to?

And yes, Virginia, a fetus is just tissue. I'm just tissue, you're just tissue, any human being on Earth is nothing more than a collection of tissue. What gives people worth is their sentience, the fact that we are able to comprehend, learn, function, love.

That's why people and their rights should be valued more than people-to-be and their rights.

Pregnancy is a beautiful experience which should be cherished. It should never be forced onto someone who, for whatever reason, does not wish it.

Virginia Revoir said...

Your comment is shocking. How can I even begin to try and argue with someone as cold as you? My heart truly is sad that you live with this kind of belief that humans are just tissue walking around and mean nothing. A heart beats at 5 weeks and you say it means nothing. I never called you a slut. I only meant that if you don't want a surprise baby, then you either need to remain abstinent or give the baby up for adoption. There is not need to vacuum apart a baby, stab the back of his head with scissors, or blast her with poison her body.

Why are you so afraid to show your name and have to be anonymous? I don't anonymously write this blog about my beliefs. In fact, whenever I've made a stand about my beliefs, I shared my name. It's not something I'm ashamed of.

Tiffany said...

Hmmm, a fetus is tissue? The word "fetus" is latin for "little child". Obviously, when the term was coined it was intended to describe a baby. I too know way too many women who have regretted killing their babies. Most people do not even know that the woman who sparked "Roe v. Wade" never aborted her baby - she couldn't go through with it, and is very vocally pro-life. I always think about some of the horrors of our world. AIDS, cancer, etc. I wonder if the person God sent to cure such diseases was aborted. Our social security system is failing...but would it be healthy if so many millions upon millions of people who were aborted had been born to contribute. While abortions are murder and kill innocent children - there are also more far reaching consequences down the line for a nation that looks the other way while we commit infanticide under the guise of "choice".

Unknown said...

I totally agree Virginia. #1 This is YOUR blog and a blog is basically whatever is running through your head at any given time. On online diary except people can read it. They are your thoughts and ideas. If someone doesnt agree with them, they do not have to read YOUR blog. Personally, I agree with everything you have said. I am a mom to 5 children, one of which was born with a rare genetic disorder. Some people would of found this out and decided to abort, they wouldnt want to deal with the hassle of having a handicapped child. They would also miss having a sweet, loving, adorable little boy...who is an angel on earth.

If you dont like what is being said, find another blog to follow, there are about 100,000 of them, I am sure you can find one :)

Louise said...

OH MY WORD!!!! I pray for those seeking abortion; for them and their baby. These mothers I have seen are most likely depressed, sad, angry at the baby's father or at the world in a whole. I am sad for them.. This was a very good post. Thank you for sharing.

kiowawife28 said...

It baffles me how people stick their necks out to save animals, but think human life isn't worth a darn thing. Why can't people understand that a life is a life, no matter the age. All of these women who are pro choice make me sick. If they don't want to be pregnant then stop sleeping with people. The purpose of intercourse it to create life,yet so many people give it away like it's candy. My sister has had several abortions and it's because she can't keep her legs closed, guess what, she is a drug addict living with random men so obviously something is wrong with her mentally.
Lastly I don't care what "contemporary" medical studies think they know. Not a single person can say they know for a fact when a fetus can and cant feel pain.

Mindy said...

So Anonymous is saying that only our sentience makes us human...so what about people born healthy and had a catastrophic event that makes them incapacitated or mentally retarded? I have a dear friend who has 4 brothers who experienced brain death because of a severe drop in blood sugar in the minutes following their otherwise healthy birth. The doctors didn't figure out what or why this kept happening to their sons but they are beloved members of their family? Are they not human because their own sentience is limited? What if Anonymous beloved spouse were to be in a car accident and have diminished capacity? Is he no longer human?

Anonymous said...

I love your boldness Jenny!

Kerrie McLoughlin said...

pregnancy is never PUSHED ON YOU. my husband says, "i am pro-choice. you can choose to have sex or NOT." i agree, and i should know (twice). i hate when people say unplanned and mistake and accident. you had sex, right? a rape is an entirely different thing, and i won't even go there. what may seem like an easy decision at the time and something easy and quick that even insurance will pay for (i can vouch for that, back in the early 90s), will haunt you forever, especially after you give birth. I know God has forgiven me, but I may never forgive myself. i've never discussed this online, but i had to jump in and give a real voice to this issue and stop being afraid to share b/c there are thousands more out there who need love and forgiveness. also ... a mandatory sonogram would have probably changed my mind.

Kerrie McLoughlin said...

Anonymous ... I have shown my face, why won't you show yours? I was not forced but made a free choice and experience regret daily, even though I did what I did to "save" my babies from a man who beat our first child out of my body. I thought I was doing them some sort of favor by aborting them, and still struggle with that thinking and can't wait to see them in Heaven and explain it to them. I should have just LEFT THE GUY and stopped HAVING SEX with him, and that's why I'm working on writing my story.

Virginia Revoir said...

Kerrie, My heart hurts for you. :( I too was extremely abused for several years before I met Charles. Thank God I never got pregnant. It's surprising being I am so fertile. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope your story helps other women in that same situation. often abused women are so beat down emotionally that they don't feel worthy of anyone that would treat them right. They are worth it! It's the scumbag that isn't worth anything. I hope some day I can reach out to abused women and help them through my experience.

Jaime said...

I just wonder why "Annonymous" even reads your blog if she/he has such different views? Find a different blog if you don't feel the same way. There is no need to be mean. My guess would be this person has no children and that is why they can make such a callus comment. Once you have a child of your own you look at babies, children, people etc different.

Amy said...

These arguments from Anonymous are some of the dumbest comments & logic I have ever seen or heard in my entire life.

And, yes, why is she even reading this blog if she's so pro-abortion? What kind of position on abortion did she expect a mother of 5 children to have???

Amy said...

correction - 6 children.

Kerrie McLoughlin said...

Amy, anonymous haters give me so much to laugh about ... like one gave me the idea for my Homeschooling Mommybot blog by calling me a name. It's good to debate things. i like to check my Sitemeter at times like these just to make sure Anonymous is not like a close relative or something, God forbid!

i wonder about the percentage of patients a therapist sees ... how many are there with abortion regret since statistics show that so many women have had at least one?

as far as "slut-shaming" ... another funny term!!! ... i don't blame women for this entirely AT ALL. we say 'close your legs' just as much as we say 'keep it in your pants'

i'm a proponent of teaching men and women about a woman's cycle as early as possible. we use NFP and our kids know about it. if i had known about my cycle, REALLY known about it ... like had it been COOL to know about it ... i probably would not have gotten pregnant when i was not planning it.