My friend and I drove a ways to visit her cousin getting married in Sierra Vista, Az. We had such a fun drive together! We had to drive to the base for the wedding practice and then the actual wedding. Well, I didn't think about how I had a gun under the seat and that I might get questioned about it. Should I say anything? What do I do if they ask? I was one of the only ones pulled over and asked additional questions. I had to show my car registration, insurance, ID. Well, I didn't know where my husband put the paperwork so I was digging around. Through all the fluster of trying to figure it out, they forgot to ask me about my weapon. Ha! Everyone else told me they were asked. I held up quite a line of cars trying to figure all that out. I fell in love with the beauty of the base. The hills, green grass, tree all around it. The wide open fields. It was beautiful. We made sure to leave the gun behind before heading to the base the next day.
|Haely and Joe|
At the wedding I absolutely loved the message the Chaplin put into it. It was super convicting. It's not like I don't already know these things, I just forget over time. He talked about unconditional love. That when you marry someone, it's like you're in this euphoria and the love is more shallow. Overtime you began to see the flaws. How do we handle them? "Well, if he's not gonna change, then I'm not." When he does the same thing it can be this cycle. The Chaplin said that you are to worry about working on yourself, WHETHER OR NOT your spouse works to change his wrongs. That hit me right in my soft spot. It CAN be a vicious cycle that just goes round and round. Of all the times I've seen marriage break up, this was often one of the reasons. The fingers that point at each other. He talked about the big words RESPECT & SUBMISSION. Probably one of the most shunned words in the feministic world we live in today.
|Me, Michele, and David (her brother being goofy) at reception|
Well, what happens if we respect him but he does not love us back like Christ loves the church? What if he's a big jerk who doesn't take care of my needs? That gets me off the hook, right? Nope. He said we are to pray for him while we continue to show our unconditional love.
What is unconditional love?
Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of the loved one's qualities or actions. The paradigm of unconditional love is a mother's love for her newborn.
Eek.... Maybe I haven't really understood unconditional love. Of course I love my husband. But would I give that love and respect whether or not I feel he deserves it? When I came home from my trip I took my husband's hand in mine and said, "Honey, if I haven't given you the love and respect owed to you I am sorry. In our vows we said for better or for worse. I want to keep my promise".
This trip was really good for me. Sometimes getting away for a bit can help us reflect on things. I did this the entire time I was gone. When I'm right in the midst of things, I don't always see things for the way it is. Being far away and having that distance made it more clear for me to work out issues in my head. I do have a fantastic relationship with my husband and he's truly my best friend. But I was able to pin point some things that I could work on while I was gone. Starting with understanding unconditional love.