Monday, October 26, 2009

Talking To Myself Again...

I'm up late writing out thank you cards to all my friends who gave me gifts for Caleb. Wow! I've been given gifts from 30 people total! I'm so overwhelmed by their giving.

In these last few months, through crisis' that I've had with friends and family, I've learned some things. Still learning for that matter. Good friends don't come easy. There will be many women that are quick to give you their opinions but it's the one that loves you for who you are and will save their opinions for the ones that truly matter. I've learned that all moms pretty much think they are the ones doing it right and everyone else that doesn't it differently needs to get with it. Ha ha. Speaking of. You guys MUST read Real Moms (Exploding the Myths of Motherhood). Wow! GREAT book and just really liberated me in so many way. Ahem. Onward. Good friends don't necessarily have to think JUST like you. I have learned some scary things. A friend can totally disagree with EVERYTHING about you but they sometimes hold it in and never say. Now that's scary to me. I don't like the beat around the bush thing. I would rather like to know what they think, period. I don't like fake friendships. Then again, someone always saying what they think is scary too. LOL.

I've learned some scary things about ME in the process and somethings I've needed to change. I've learned to pick my battles. If I'm always disagreeing with someone over trivial things, they won't listen to me when it really, really matters. Sometimes we can just have an argumentative spirit. I've learned to stop being so judgemental. I will stand up for what's moral and right. I will warn a friend when I see them heading down a dangerous path. Always. (What kind of friend would I be otherwise?) But I don't need to tell them that I don't agree with what time they put their kids down to bed. Ha ha! Putting your mommy opinions onto other moms.... well, you are just asking for it! Have fun, be a friend! (I'm talking to myself here). My family can be very confrontational at times and that's where I got it. I know because my husband told me. So, I'm learning to relax, enjoy my friends, and not have to always be so stinking opinionated. (I just think it in my head). Mwahahahaha!

Okay, enough of exposing myself. Sigh. Night guys. I just finished the cards to my great mommy friends. :D

P.S. You friends who gave me diapers as a gift, you just KNOW what a mom needs!!! You're awesome!

P.P.S He got some stinking cute outfits too. Sooooo adorable.


Happy Elf Mom (Christine) said...

That is so awesome that you have 30 friends that would spend money on your kid LOL! You know you're blessed. :]

Casey said...

That is truly a blessing to have so many friends who would take th etime to give a gift. Good friends are hard to find, and even harder to keep. You're blessed!

momto9 said...

I've noticed too that people are so quick to give an opinion~an unneeded, unhelpful one........even friends and family who have been in your life for many years. But we all have the same sinful all comes down to not living before the face of man...but doing what I do wholeheartedly knowing it's God I habe to answer to.

Anonymous said...

This is you ole Mom.. from my experience, people usually mean well, it's just that they are not always good in how they present themselves. I know that there is always a few that think they know better and they are heartless in their critizism(which they might label help), but love covers a multitude of sins.. and we have to realize that we are not perfect either.. We have to let it go and let God deal with them.. so that our relationship with Him is not hindered.. Jen, you have done a great job in not letting them get to you most the time.. just keep your heart tender, alot of times people are going through ,something, and they are not in a good mood,etc. "I clean stall is an empty stall".. If it wasn't God's Grace, we all would be oil spots on the ground.. keep up the good work in being a good Mommy to our adorable Grandchildren, that we are very proud of.. With Love,Mom
I'm glad that Caleb was blessed with so many gifts! , but you guys have had a hard time financially, so that is a great help! and I appreciate all that blessed my daughter!!!Thank You!

Anonymous said...

Virginia--I hope you thank God everyday for your awesome Mom! I am sure you do. You are blessed with many things and I know that you are grateful for all of them. Enjoy your gifts and especially the diapers! Those truly are the best gifts ever! Love the bumblebee mask and the pirate hat--too cute!