The Nothing Box

Wow, have these days been busy! I'm need to look for a curriculum that makes it more possibe for me to homeschool 3 boys without working such long hours. As of right now, it take about 8 hours a day which I don't mind, but I like to keep up on house chores and stuff like that. So far, I'm mainly cleaning at night and only maintenence in the day. Gosh, I have to say though. I LOVE BEING BUSY!!! This great book I'm reading called Real Moms, Exploding The Myths Of Motherhood talks about this. It was saying that the difference between a lot of moms, whether or not they want a large family, is how busy they like to be. That is a good point. Most women of course love kids but you have to like also being busy, or at least not minding it, in order to have a larger family. I was busy with two kids. Just in a different way. The dynamic changes. (Potty breaks are still just as short. No more reading on the toilet since I had even one kid). Now, I'm just busy in all kinds of ways. It's a good thing women can multitask or it'd be impossible. That is probably why guys say, "Honey, how do you do it?" They have compartments in their brain. When they are at their job, they pull out the "Job Box". Then they put it away when they are done. They have the Kids Box. The Wife Box. They even have a Nothing Box. What?? No fair! I want a nothing box! Our brains aren't wired that way. We have wires all over the place and everything just connects everywhere. We can just multitask like crazy! Okay, we've been watching marriage videos during Sunday School at church. They are just awesome. I'm so glad he explained the Nothing Box. That's why when you say "Honey, what are you thinking about?" They say, "Nothing." Hmmm.... "Yeah right, Hon! You have to be thinking about something!" Lucky guys. I want a nothing box.

When some of the women were walking around my mom grabbed them for a photo. So it's not all of them. I'm on the far left. :)

My diaper bag I love that has Caleb's name on it.

Caleb's Babyshower

Hi guys! Here some pics of the babyshower we had tonight for Caleb. It was so great having my friends there. (P.S. Kristy I saw you and kept trying to get your attention to say hi). Thanks for coming to all my friends. You totally blessed me and I loved our time fellowshipping together! You are all so fun. :D Also to Kristine, my mom, and Cindy for putting it together. I so did not even expect a babyshower and you gave me one. Wow! I count my blessing having such great friends in my life.

My wittle, wittle peanut!!! Ohhhhh! So squishy cute.

You can't see it but my friend Cindy, next to me, had this diaper bag ordered with Caleb's name etched big on the front. So cute! I love the dark colors too.

Everyone eating. They made some really yummy mexican food and even sent lots home with me. I'm sure gonna have fun eating tomorrow....

Starting to open up gifts. This was just such a huge blessing since I had no baby boy clothes. I got blessed with lots of diapers and wipes also.

Above is my friend Cheryl and I with baby Caleb.

Nana with Caleb!

Let's Clear This One Up

Here is Ivy at one year old and then at 4. Boy has time flown!!! I can't believe it! She has the same eyes. :) Captures my heart.

I have to share this with you. The other night my husband was reading the bible to the kids and was explaining what slavery was to the kids. Then one of them said, "Is mom our slave?" What??? Ha ha. Nooooooo! They see how mommy works a lot, cleans, does laundry, cooks. So in their little minds, from what daddy explained, that sounded like a slave. I'm glad I have them doing chores with me everyday! I don't mind my part at all. The cooking, laundry, homeschooling, and cleaning. It sure does help when they do their part though, even as small as it is. With them all pitching in, it makes for a great team. I still can't believe they asked that question though. Oh phooey. Ha ha.

Kid's Week Off... Party Time!

On Monday, I woke up, grabbed my coffee and walked into the living room to start my day with the kids. My husband said, "What are you doing?" I told him we were starting our day homeschooling. He said, "On my week off?" Ummm... so we took the week off. As you can see in the pics of Kyle doing a workbook last week, he is so happy to not being working on it at all this week. Sometimes I wonder how they are able to concentrate when they hear their siblings in the other room doing something really fun like trying to figure out how to make a slide from the top bunk in their room. (I'm still trying to figure out which little kid found the stapler and put about 100 staples in their wall by their bed....hmmm... well, it's in the girl's room so most likely it was princess #1. Ivy is a suspect so far).

Tonight my husband took my two older boys to Howie's Game Shack for a late nighter. We don't have games at home anymore so Charles takes them out to play games every now and then. It's so late yet I know Chaz and Ryan are in heaven. Since the younger four kids (dang, did I just say that?) were at home with me, I did special things for them. Every now and then Ivy would check out the window to see if the boys were back. Then at one point she started crying saying she missed them and missed her daddy. I let them stay up late, gave them a late night snack, candy, even ice cream and now they are asleep on the couch. They said they were gonna wait up but they are both crashed. So cute.

Ducks In A Row

This is how I find the kid's bathroom sink about 70% of the day. Just for fun I empty it every time I pass to see how quickly it will get refilled again.

This post is for my friend KRISTY!!! You know who you are my sweet friend. I never talk really personal in my blog because I get weirdos who go on here and make odd comments.

I'm reading this fantastic book called Real Moms (Exploding the myths of motherhood) by Elisa Morgan. It talks about how everyone has this mold we fit Motherhood into. What we think a good mother should be. It's true. Most of us give ourselves a hard time about it. Some moms having nothing better to do so they go around telling people they are no good moms. That they don't think that person fits into their perfect mold of what they think a good mother is. I let my kids push all my furniture in the living room around to makes army bases when other people think that's a disrespectful thing to teach kids. I let my monkeys jump on their bed because I liked jumping on my bed when I was little. They are not gonna break it for goodness sakes unless they are one of the video game kids who eat junk food all day and never get any exercise. Some people think that is dangerous. I've had family get on me because I don't follow my kids around the house all day to check up on them. Of course I watch my kids. I check on them all the time (seriously though) and constantly keep my ears peeled. I don't follow them around the house though. That would be weird. I HAVE to check on my kids. I have VERY energetic kids who like to try new things all the time. Just last week all three of my boys got eye injuries. Thankfully all of them are okay. One still has a black eye and the other one has a big red mark on the white of his eye. BOTH did it to themselves. Chaz banged his head on his bunkbed at night and Ryan banged his on his desk at school (homeschool enrichment class). Kyle got hit by a flying kid's plastic hanger. I hide my scissors on the fridge, even the kid's ones, because Ivy likes to cut up all the books in the house. She even offered to cut her own hair for me. Thankfully she asked me first. Since she was so insistent she'd do a great job, I hid the scissors in case she wanted to go ahead and try. I homeschool my kids not because I'm this incredible mom but because I have really crappy and low rated schools in my area. NOTHING good for miles around. There was one that was pretty good but for personal reasons, I had to pull them out. One of them was that they have no good special ed courses for my son and did not treat him well. So, therefore I'm homeschooling. I basically take what teachers would give them at school and we do it at home. I don't come up with all my own stuff. It's a curriculum laid out for me. Being that I'm not an incredibly organized, tree hugging, animal rescuing, organic growing, perfect looking mom.... homeschooling does not come natural to me. I love them though and therefore I sacrifice 6-8 hours every day to work with them. That's not including all my other work around the house. I thought I was done with Algebra! I ditched that class in school along with Geography. Did you know that I didn't know Paris was in France? I thought they were two separate countries until a dear friend enlightened me. I had no idea. That's embarrassing my friends. I ditched a lot of my freshman year of high school until I became a Christian later that year. Then I was cramming for all the tests, hoping that God would help me to pass. (I aced one of them by the way.) :D I had to retake my Freshman English course in my sophomore year because I was kicked out of that class the first time around. Thankfully I gave my heart to Christ, ran into that teacher several years later and had an opportunity to apologize to her about the name I called her in front of the class. She forgave me. :) So it's good I'm having to homeschool my kids. My teachers would only laugh if they could see me now. I was the kid in second grade who climbed on her desk and started singing her little heart out in front of the class. When there was a substitute in the class that day, one of first things they would do when they walked in was ask who Jenny was. The teacher would always give them a note to watch out for me. I wasn't a bad kid, just a major class clown who like to organize things such as having all the kids switch desks and be a different kid for a day since the substitute didn't know any better. Now that I'm a mom, I think sometimes God is up there with a BIG HUGE Grin watching me. I know mom, I heard you say it a hundred times. "You just wait and see. I hope you have kids just like you." :D I STILL love it! It's okay mom. Grandma told me she said the same thing to you. Hee hee....

The Great Outdoors...Indoors

If you notice the picture of Ryan with the bear, Ryan is picking the bear's nose. That's my kid for you. That's a real stuffed bear.

This week my husband has off so we were picking some activities to do with the kids throughout the week. We discovered that Bass Pro Shop has a Kids Night with all kinds of cool stuff such as rock climbing, archery, shooting range, scavenger hunt, prizes, etc. I can't remember them all. So we headed there and it was fun! I think we will visit once every other month and add it to our list of fun family places to visit.

While we were there we decided to stop in at the fudge shop and get a soda and a coffee. Well, the coffee was kind of cold so we let the lady know. She grumpily answered "you'll have to wait 20 minutes". She didn't even stop what she was doing to go make some fresh coffee. I said, "I think instead I'll just get my money back." She ignored me and kept cleaning while we were standing there. My husband said "excuse me." Still no response. I could see that my husband was upset so I said we should just go talk to a manager. We let her know what happened and she apologized, gave us a $20 gift card and went to talk to the lady about what she did. We kept our cool with the lady but I'm so shocked how mean she was.

Living Room Tents!

I promised I would show pictures of how my living room transforms in between my kid's two chore times. They have to always fix it by 4pm (used to be 5pm). I think daddy should be able to come home from work to a house where the couch can be sat on. Ha ha. The kids move the couches around and all the blankets are taken off the beds except mine. They make their tents, girls vs. boys, and play. It's so cute. I'm not gonna freak. I used to want my living room to stay clean but that is so not practical. I mean, I homeschool so they are home all day. They have fun using their imagination. In the bottom picture you can see baby Caleb in the swing up on the table and Kyle is working on English or Math. It's a wonder he can concentrate yet he does. I'm so amazed at how well my kids read. It always shocks me when they are reading their bible out loud. I ask "you can read that???" Wowzers.

My Love Hate Relationship With Fridays

I love Fridays because its the day my 3 older boys go to school for their enrichment classes. The only thing is even though we have two vans, we are only able to drive one for now so we have to get up at 5:30am just to drop Charles off, come back home for about an hour, then take boys to school in the morning, go pick Charles back up (he has a split shift in the day), go home or run some errands with him. Take him back to work, run an errand or sit in van for an hour and a half till it's time to get boys and then run right back to pick up Charles again from work. What was different this time was that Charles had a bus trip to take some kids some where. I had just got home after picking boys up from school and he said if I want I can come visit. Visit my honey bear??? Of course. :) I miss him during the day, the times we're apart. He wasn't gonna be back till late at night. So we got back in the van and headed to see daddy. We didn't get back home till 11:30pm so we are just pooped. I actually didn't go home today at all except for just a half hour. So from 5:30am till 11:30pm, we were pretty much gone from home. So, so very pooped! It's a great day to run errands and the boys love their classes, but it's also the most tiring day of the week.

Isn't this the cutest pic. Little Caleb is going to learn to be a deep sleeper being he has to sleep with all the noise around him in the day! haha.

Busy, Busy Days

Wow! With little Caleb here, the days have been so incredibly busy. I'm learning to appreciate my days and stop worrying about having the clean house. Boy, that's one aspect that changed for me. I've worked so hard on being more organized and keeping things nice that I'm having to now worry about not being so picky about it. I don't worry very much about the kid's bedrooms, I just like the main functioning areas to be nice. STILL, I've decided that we don't have to worry about keeping it perfect and lets just have fun learning and playing in between the two chore times. You should see my living room right now. There are tents all over the place.

In this picture, Kyle came into the room and had the funny idea to pull his shirt up on his head to make this cool mask. Ha ha. Hey, maybe we don't need to worry about a Halloween costume this year for Kyle. We'll just have him walk around like that. LOL. Just kidding. My kids already have their costumes for Halloween.

Going on with the original subject. Now that I'm nursing Caleb every couple of hours and changing his little butt diapers, the days have just been flying for me. Homeschooling has been tougher and visiting my friend's blogs has been even harder. I'm thinking I need to start homeschooling much earlier in the day. Today I woke up with my little snugglebug nursing, it was 6:30am. I realized I should get up for the day but having this little cutie snuggled up to me made it impossible. I dozed off awhile longer in bliss. In our busyness, I love it. I remember the days before I had kids. I would wake up, go to work for most of the day, come home and make dinner, and do different stuff at night. My life wasn't all that exciting. Now, I get to play in tents with my kids! Have different reasons to walk around Toys R Us. Change little cute butt diapers. haha. So cute. Play Candyland or Swords and Gunners with the kids. Make mud mania for the kids outside. Plan a fun family night for every week. There's no way I'd want to go to work and miss all this!

I will get back to my blogging friends soon! I miss sitting down with hot cocoa and seeing how everyone is doing. :D

Teaching Kids about God

Teaching Kids about God is a neat book I picked up at the library. I generally only like to buy my books because I love having a library. I'm a major book worm and I tend to reread my books several times over. I looked it up on Amazon and they have them real cheap which is why I gave you the link.

I would think it would be obvious about how to teach our kids about God. I checked the book out just to read it anyway. Some things that popped out to me though that I hadn't thought of. We can talk to our kids about God, but sometimes the best time to talk to them is through a situation. Make prayers with a little one simple. For example with a child learning to potty in the toilet. "Dear God, thank You for loving me. Help me go potty in the potty and sleep well." This prayer connects with them because it deals with their concerns and is short and simple enough for them to grasp. It changes with the ages of course through their situations. Also, we talk a lot about God's love but they learn about God's love THROUGH us rather than just what we say with our mouths about God. That really made me think. Anyway, just some thoughts I've been having about the subject.

To me, the most important thing I could ever, ever do in this life is care about souls. First of all, the little souls that are in my care. Also of course with people I meet. If all I do is raise my kids to be decent human beings who grow up to get a good job, get married, have kids, retire, and die... then what have I achieved? The bible says, "What does it profit a man to gain the whole world yet lose his own soul?" I don't homeschool my kids because I'm picky about a curriculum and how my sons learn their math. I do it because I saw how the school was training my kids in other ways that were NOT desirable. After Obama was elected president, can you believe the school called me because they wanted to know what I was teaching my kids about Obama? They heard my kids say that Obama was for babies being killed (in their mommy's tummy). The school questioned me about it and I said back to them, "Well, is that a lie?" Then the kids told their teacher that Obama is not a good president but they will pray he won't get hurt. The school asked me if we are telling our kids that we want Obama to get killed. Nooooo, we are not saying that. Good president or bad (in our view), we always pray for our presidents. Our kids remember when we prayed for Bush's safety and for God's blessing. I told them that my kids were just talking about how they don't want Obama to get hurt. Even though we don't agree with his views. Anyway, why are they questioning my little kids in an office and calling me at home? We always pray for our presidents. No, we never encourage weird thoughts of wanting people to get hurt. That is just plain WRONG. The bible says to pray for our enemies. So that's what we do. Even people in our lives that have hurt us. We always pray for them. Anyway, I said all that to say, I think it was creepy how the school seems to be getting more and more in the way of parent's personal training with their kids. Bringing in people (behind parent's back) to explain homosexuality or about sex. Why does a kindergartner need to know about sex? Why open up their minds to something at such a young age? So, that's why my kids are home with me. I know some people are lucky to have great schools where stuff like this doesn't happen. I have none around me at all and I did long searches. So, I made life so much tougher for myself but it's worth the sacrifice. After all, kids grow up WAY too fast!!! Sheesh. I love having them home with me. Even IF the house doesn't stay as clean.

Funny Large Family Comebacks

While in an elevator today someone asked me "My, your hands are full!" I hear it a hundred times. Wherever I go. A lady standing next to me then asks, "Are they all yours??!!" Because I didn't want to be rude and say "Nooo, I just picked up a few along the road and took them with me", I just said "yes". "Dang!" she responded. We were just all quiet in response to her. My husband I get weary of always responding to these kinds of questions. It just depends on the attitude of how they are asking. Sometimes people are just curious. Just for fun I googled "Large Family Comebacks". I laughed so hard with some of them. :) I would have to add one or two to this list.

Q: You're getting fixed, right? Why nothing is broke
A: Is this your last one? Nope we hope he's/she's the middle child

Q: My, your hands are full!

A1: Yeah, and yours look empty!

A2: Yeah, I guess some people just aren't as blessed as we are.

Q: You know what causes that, right?
A: Yes I know what causes it, and I LIKE it!

Q: Don't you know what causes that?
A: Oh yes, we finally figured it out and we now keep the tooth brushes in seperate glasses!

Q: Don't you know what causes that?

A: Oh yes, I now wash my husband's underwear seperately

My Favorite Time Of The Year!

It's October first and my heart is singing. :D The weather is cooler, where I live, it's the best time to plant a vegetable garden. I spend my time destressing outdoors. I'm so not an indoors person yet this summer we kept ourselves cooped up from the 110 degree summer weather. My kids actually want to go in the backyard now because it's not blazing hot. Here they are getting down right messy and it's okay with me! Our own little mud mania. You should see what my porch looks like now with dried up mud everywhere. It's not pretty but, hey, kids live here! The floor had to be mopped after all of them came running in to hop into the warm shower. With tons of brown water flowing down the drain, it finally ran clear and they emerged much cleaner. So much fun is coming with not only beautiful weather but some fun holidays also! We always look forward to Halloween (no scary costumes allowed though), Thanksgiving, and Christmas. It's just a beautiful time of the year. :D

Baby Adjustments

With every baby it took a period of adjusting for me. I think I was already starting in one way before Caleb was born. Do you know how many times I set out 6 kid plates for dinner? I did it again tonight. As I was passing out the plates of food, I stood holding one, trying to figure out why the kids all already had one. I did it again. I was holding the plate for Caleb even though tiny little Caleb was across the room in the bassinet. Nursing has been difficult because it's always painful for me in the beginning. Otherwise he's doing great in that department. The little fellow needs to put on some ounces. Right now he is 6lb 5oz. So tiny and ohhhhhhhh so cute. The kids adore him but it is super tough teaching little Ashley, my 2 year old, how to be gentle. I always have to keep an eye out for him. Today I had my son Ryan help me put together the bassinet that is to go in my bedroom. Caleb is staying in MY room till he's a little older. I mean a quite a few months older. Gotta protect the little peanut from two little mommies that want to change his socks and hats every 10 seconds.

Caleb's Slideshow

Caleb Joseph, 6lb 9oz

38 Week Update

I've been working a lot lately to get caught up on some things. Namely laundry. Being that I did laundry from the time I woke up till late at night, I just had contractions all day long. I'm sure I sped things along for myself. I was almost dilated to a 2 a week ago. I see my doctor on Thursday and if I'm at a 3, she's gonna take me in. Soooooo, if I don't blog, you know why. :) I'm so nervous though! I had my daughter 2 weeks early on my own last time and so I'm used to going early. It's still scary you know. Giving birth. I didn't sleep much last night because of it. I finally drifted off in a fitful sleep around 3am. I was super hot even though I cranked the A/C really cold. I'm glad the girls were bundled, like you see in picture. :D (I know, I write with a lot of smiley faces). Anway, I have all the kid's stuff packed and a list for myself of stuff I can't pack until it's time to go. You know, like my toothbrush. I need that right now. And my deoderant! There are just some thing that go in last. What I want to know is where my white silky robe is? I hate those ugly, ugly hospital gowns. Now I'm gonna have to wear my big and pink fluffy one. You know, I'm usually bored laying around in the hospital so guess what I'm bringing with me? My laptop! Sitting in bed (healing) for 2 1/2 days is a long time. Not as long when I had the kidney infection in the hospital. That was 5 or 6 days but I was totally passed out for all that time. It's different when you give birth to a little cutie. I don't know about you but I don't sleep well after that. I'm just so excited and awake that I don't get much rest there. I usually stay up 24 hours after I give birth. Then I want to walk around and talk to people. There is no baby nurseries anymore these days! They are all hidden away with mommy. I'll have my camera of course to take lots of pictures, hee hee.....

I know, I really don't take that many pics. This time I will guys. You don't think I have a lot of pictures do you? (haha) Journaling is my life. I've been writing journals from when I was a little girl.

My boys are just going crazy counting down.

The other day Chaz (9 years old) said, "Mom, wow, your tummy is just getting HUGE! I hope Caleb comes out soon because that's just embarrassing. You know, you can't keep him in there till he's nine years old. That would REALLY be embarrassing."

I Just Love Those Comebacks

We went to to the mall a little bit ago to get some exercise and we saw this outside. A super sweet cop car and a firetruck. The firemen were cool to talk to and we even discussed the movie "Fireproof!" That is a great movie. If you haven't seen it, you're missing out. The cops and firemen were having fun with the kids and were giving them stuff to play with. I love the "pursuit juice" in the back of the trunk. So cute. We always run into our friends LaVona and Adan when we are there! It's so funny. They were outside with us too. Either that or we'll run into them at Costco or the bookstore. I guess we like the same places. :) The only thing that is just so incredibly annoying at the mall is all the comments when we walk by people. Ohhhh, so annoying. They'll either count our kids, or say "whoa! Look at all those kids!" The thing is, my kids behave and are quiet walking right next to us in the mall or at the store so it's not like they are drawing attention to themselves. I guess I would be normal if I had 2 kids and a dog.

I HAVE to tell you what happened at McDonalds yesterday! Ha ha! My husband was sitting in the play area with the kids. A man, with only one kid, says to Charles with a scowl on his face, "Wow, you have a really big family." My husband replied (showing emphasis with his hand), "You have one kid? Wow, you have a reeeeeal little family!" I wasn't there but when he told me in the car what happened I was just laughing and laughing. You'll understand this if you have a big family. You hear the comments left and right wherever you go and it's just so funny when you come up with a comeback. Politely said though, but funny!