I think the hardest thing sometimes would be the arguments. If I'm not careful, I can get pulled into he said/she said type stuff all throughout the day. Usually my rule is no tattling unless someone is being hurt or is being a pervert. Sometimes I'll think someone is being outrageously bad, get all over their case, but then once I hear the other side of the story I feel bad because I didn't hear the other side first. And sometimes, the stories are so wildly different I have to just walk away and tell them to just separate. I'm learning really quick to choose my battles very carefully. If I don't, I'll be settling fights all day long. Sometimes I realize the tattling comes from boredom and a need for drama from the kids. Sometimes it looks like I don't care to the kids but I've learned the worst thing I can do is when a case is brought to me, to look at the accused and rebuke in front of the offended. Sometimes, and it's completely human of us to do this, kids find satisfaction in seeing another kid punished. Dr. James Dobson has always suggested to take the accused aside privately and ask their side of the story. If both sides are wildly different, separate them. But don't lash out at the accused in from of the other kid. I love that advice. However, people that see me acting completely calm in the middle of an argument, it's because I'm listening to both sides and mulling it over in my head. Once one of the kids goes back and plays, I'll quietly have a talk with the other one whether it's to ask more questions or correct their behavior. Not an easy parenting task, dealing with arguments. Alas, it must be done. Ha.
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