Wednesday, February 09, 2011

My Venting Here in Blogland

Charles and Kyle August 2008

Sometimes as a mommy and a wife you can only give your best.




Sometimes things are out of your control.




For example.  My husband has had a high fever for 3 days and right now is at the Dr's to see why it's dragging on and on.  He's hardly able to just stay awake. UPDATEHe just got back. He has flu and bronchitis. He got a breathing treatment, an inhaler, steroids, and a Zpack to fight infection. He can't work for a week! Goodness. I have to take care of my man.  Poor guy!

I've had appointments I can hardly keep track of such as dentist, eye appointments, and one of my sons is going to have a procedure done at a specialist soon.  I've missed appointments because of some overlapping the other.

Ryan, Kyle, Chaz 2008


My boys have basketball practice 3 times a week and games.



They have school projects like crazy, not including their regular homework.




I've had countless meetings with my son's school to help show them things that I've learned over time to help Chaz.  I need them to work with me.  I know it's easier to send him home to mommy but he knows this and they are playing into his hands.  Chaz wants to hide and I need him to learn to be strong.

Chaz 2008


I've been meeting with Ivy's teacher to see why she is struggling and what may be causing it.  My surprise?  She possibly has Sensory Processing Disorder.  It's affecting her greatly at school and she is getting further and further behind.  Normally in Kindergarten this would not be such a huge deal.  But at THIS school they learn how to read by the end of Kindergarten.  I'm pulling her and now homeschooling her.  I HATE this.  I hate being flaky.  When she was struggling before I stepped it up a notch.  I worked hard with her at home along with the school.  It was just too much for her to get up so early, be gone allll day, come home and do her regular homework, AND on top of that they gave her more work using an online program she has to do daily. It was gonna have to be either/or.  Go to school or learn with mom.  Not both.  At 5 she can't be overloaded like this.  She's working her butt off with almost zero playtime to relax.  With a heavy heart I am pulling her.




Ryan 2008
I really, really don't like some homeschooling programs out there that push for a Kindergartner to be learning more than the needed basics.  I can really care less if my daughter knows the continents when she just needs to be focusing on her numbers, letters, and sounds.  All that other stuff can wait.  That's just my opinion.  If you don't have these basics down pat, it's gonna get harder and harder to catch up later. There is a popular homeschooling program I see my friends at church using and I can't believe how many hours are required from them.  Okay, I can see maybe high school students working 8 hours a day on it. One girl, in 8th grade, is doing homeschool for more than 8 hours. Even in a public school a kid is not studying for that many hours. If you  minus play time, lunch time, recess, extra curriculars, etc.



So I'm putting Ivy on the program I've used before that was extremely successful for my other kids.  Really, at 5, I'm not worried about her leaning what animal is from what part of the world.  She just needs her basics right now.



Some of my boys are needing tutoring.



I'm a little grouchy right now but....
Kyle's first day of school. Ohhhh...Memories



Why is it that when they are homeschooling they are souring in their grades?  When I put them back into a school they once again fall behind. Especially since they started the year on top of their class and having honor roll.  Why am I always having to play catch up and rescue them?  Are class sizes too big?  Are they just not used to having to be at school for so many hours and then come home and have even more homework?  Is it overwhelming them?  I don't know, Just trying to figure this out.

WOULD LOVE YOUR INPUT

Please...



4 comments:

Dom said...

Yo! Virginia, I totally feel you. I have been so overwhelmed with waaaaaaaaaaaay too much on my plate and it just doesn't stop. Laundry, dishes, cooking dinner, paying bills, scheduling appointments, meeting deadlines, winning new clients, keeping existing clients happy, spending time with the kids, making sure they are doing their homework, taxes, etc., etc., etc!

I have been so stressed and angry and depressed and overwhelmed its just ridiculous. Its a lot to handle all on your own. The work never ends!

I think its time for a vacation and I sincerely mean that. Just get out and take a few days off and let someone else pick up the slack for a change!

Hang in there. I agree with you that no kindergardner needs to be reciting the constitution. They're KIDS and they onlyget to do that ONE TIME for a very short time! They have their whole lives to be a grown up.

Love u guys. Tell Charles I said to chill. Literally. :)

Anonymous said...

Hi, this is a FB friend/ Aspie mom (only we found out our boy was classified with autism since then). One idea is: find them a school with a super attentive "services" staff (they call it RSP in my son's district). Academic tutoring/ specialized services/methods for those with IEPs, in other words. Perhaps the kids got academically behind due to the school's lack of providing a properly adaptive curriculum and methods? I agree with you about the homeschooling... let them play while they can for goodness sake! I homeschooled for several stretches while my family was figuring everything out this past year, and it is exhausting both physically and mentally given what mothering asks of you to begin with. Best of luck... the above was my account with my own situation. I could not have foreseen it, but we ended up in a very rigorous public school (he's in 1st grade), with 1/2 hour+ or homework daily, but he loves the structure of it and wakes up full of energy to go to school (we are on our 3rd week of this school at a mid-year switch). We'll be at a meeting tomorrow to discuss something called "touch math" and a few other adaptive methods for him that the RSP teachers want to review with us and his classroom teacher. In this case, so glad these specialists with quantifiable results know about methods that I do not and never would had I stayed with the homeschooling....

Zsuzsanna said...

Oh no - your husband must have caught the "flu from hell" that's been going around. I am so sorry! My husband was sick in bed with it for a full week before he could even get up. Hope he gets better soon, and you get some rest.

Virginia Revoir said...

Domonic, you are so right. We really need a family vacation. I can see why you are stressed. You are going through some really tough times. We love you guys. :)

Aspie Mom, oohh, I wish my kids woke up excited about school! Since experiencing homeschooling they truly do not like going to a school every day. Now they beg me to stay home.

Zsuzsanna, you were right. My hubby got back from the hospital. He has the flu and bronchitis. He was given a breathing treatment, inhaler, steroids, and a Zpack.